Prostate Massage Tips (Jane)

Dick and I have received questions and comments on this site about prostate massage; some about receiving, some about giving. The nurse in me gives portions of the following "giving" tutorial a clinical slant, I hope you don't mind.

Background, Basics, and Benefits

The textbook definition of the prostate gland is: a small structure located at the base of the bladder and wrapped around the urethra (the tube that carries urine from the bladder out through the penis) that produces about 30% of the seminal fluid released during ejaculation.

There are a number of amazing benefits to Prostate Massage (also known as Prostate Milking). It is therapeutic for both health and pleasure alike. Health benefits (to name a few) include; relief of "prostatitis" (a general term used to describe prostate inflammation) by stimulating complete emptying of the semen ducts, increased blood flow to the pelvic region (which can assist with erectile dysfunction), and preventing or even relieving the enlargement of the prostate which often occurs as a man ages. Some studies have even shown all of these health benefits to help prevent prostate cancer.

Undoubtedly, the best benefit is the incredible sexual experience it provides. Prostate massage is extremely pleasurable for a man, the prostate has even been referred to as the "male G-spot". It has been said that a man can have an extraordinarily powerful orgasm from prostate stimulation alone and can actually have multiple orgasms in this way.

For those of you who may not know, the prostate is best accessed through the anus (ass, butt-hole, pooper...chose your own noun). It can be located approximately 2-3 inches inside the rectum towards the navel. I believe, and based on Dick's feedback, the best way to approach prostate massage is with a partner. If you are unable to procure a willing partner there are a number of prostate massage products on the market, but Dick has expressed on numerous occasions that my fingers always produce the best effect.

As with any type of butt play I am a firm believer in the importance of a willing partner on both the giving and receiving ends as well as excellent communication between partners. Also, with any type of butt play (especially penetrative) an amazing amount of lube is essential! The rectum is not self-lubricating and can be damaged without proper lubrication. Our current favorite lube for this purpose is extra virgin coconut oil.

Preparation and Warm Up

If you have long or acrylic nails you may want to apply some cotton around and under the nail and use a finger cot or a latex glove to avoid injuring your partner.

I usually start by getting Dick aroused (at this point all I have to do is mention prostate massage and that does the trick!) ;o) This can take any form, but it is an important step because arousal serves the purpose of increasing blood flow to the entire pelvic floor thus relaxing the anus and heightening sensation. I then lube up his anus with some nice warm coconut oil and begin circling with my first finger. Typically, I use my non-dominant hand because I like to use my dominant hand to touch, stroke and play with Dick's cock. This is an incredible experience even for the giver, if you've never done it I would highly recommend spending some time at this as I do!

Finding and Grinding the Right Spot

After a while I'll ask Dick if he's ready for my finger, slowly insert it as far as it will go, and hold it there allowing Dick to get used to the sensation before beginning to search for his prostate. Locating the right spot is best accomplished through guidance from your partner, assuming he has acquired an awareness of prostate sensation through practice, but you're looking for a walnut shaped squishy spot. The ideal search technique is not in a poking manner (which can actually be unpleasant) but more of a slow rubbing with constant, gentle pressure.

Once I have the spot located I just continue rubbing with modest pressure. Dick usually prefers a circular or side to side motion and sometimes even just static firm pressure, I vary my technique based on his response.

At this point Dick is usually making a variety of feral sounds that I swear are not human. Eventually I add my middle finger, which I believe heightens the sensation and allows me to increase the pressure I can apply, which is what Dick usually wants once his arousal progresses. I typically stroke his dick simultaneously as he gets closer to orgasm. It usually ends in a very intense orgasm for Dick and a wet spot on the bed... a wet spot where I have been sitting.