I'm generally a pretty private person when it comes to personal
struggles, maybe I don't like to reveal my flaws. I know everyone faces challenges at some point in their lives and sometimes it makes them a better person, I believe this is the case for me. My struggle has caused me to
re-evaluate myself and put forth the effort to make necessary changes
in myself to be a better person.
We recently got a message from a
follower of our HotPics blog which inspired me to share my story.
The message was "Have I told you how much I hope to have a marriage
like yours". This was the best kind of compliment and exactly what I
needed to hear right now. We do have a marriage to be envied, today I
can say that with confidence but I'm not sure I would have said that 6
months ago.
Marriage is an amazing union. It is incredible to know, and be
known, by someone so intimately. It is an indescribable feeling to be
connected with someone in such a way that the world just seems right
when you are together. But marriage, no matter how perfect the couple
may be for each other, takes work. I don't care who you are or how long
you've been together, marriage is a living breathing thing that
requires, nourishment and attention. I think all marriages go through hard
times and sadly more than 50% of couples just
give up.
I believe it's hard times that make a marriage
stronger and Dick and I have had some hard times lately. Somewhere along
the way I forgot the importance of cultivating our bond which resulted
in a large gap between us. Sadly, it took something fairly drastic for me
to re-open my eyes and see the incredibly amazing man who loves me
inside out like no one ever has before, that there is so much passion in
his love for me and so much love to give.
We have been working through
our issues together and our bond has become stronger than ever, our
passion embarrassing our teenage children daily. We have a renewed
desire for each other both physically and emotionally that amazes me
everyday. I can't get enough.
I share all of this
because I believe others might benefit from my learning experience.
Never assume your partner knows how you feel about them, show them in
some small way every single day; in the passionate kiss on the way out
the door, the kind gesture, or the simple touch.
I love you Dick, you are
still my dream come true.
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I love you too Jane! You are still my lobster! (Lobsters are sometimes a bit pinchy, but I'm cool with that)
ReplyDelete:o) You make me laugh.
DeleteLobster? Cute. And it's good you posted this, we all need to have glimmers that everything is not daisies.
ReplyDeleteWe learned many years ago from a very reputable source(Friends Season 2 Episode 14)that Lobsters fall in love and mate for life. We have been "lobsters" ever since. And thank you, I'm glad I posted it too.
DeleteThis is beautiful. Thank you for writing and sharing it.
ReplyDeleteThank you for reading.
DeleteI hope you guys have many more wonderful years together. It takes a unique and deep relationship full of trust and commitment to let each other be open to all they can be. But I don't have to tell you of the reward. May your relationship continue to deepen and your love for one another continue to grow in all areas of your life. Thanks for showing us the way.
ReplyDeleteHope you both are ok. If and when you're ready to share more about what's going on, you've got a sympathetic ear to tell it to.
ReplyDelete"I don't care who you are or how long you've been together, marriage is a living breathing thing that requires nourishment and attention."
ReplyDeleteThis is a really accurate statement and it's sad how many people don't realize that a good marriage *does* take work. Most seem to think that if everything isn't coming up roses, it's a sign to move on to other pastures.
I believe you and Dick will be fine, in spite of whatever bumps the road brings, because you know exactly what it takes to make it past them. Huggs to you :)
Thank you "Us", "Lola" and "Michele" for your kind words. I love that my words touched you.
ReplyDeleteLovely and inspiring to us as we go through some "hard times". Keep writing.
ReplyDeleteMany thanks for everything sexual and emotional.
ReplyDeleteBeautifully written, inspriational, even for those of us who have phenonomal marriages and are in a good place at this time. Thank you for sharing.
ReplyDeleteThank you SO much for your honesty about all aspects of your relationship! My husband and I share MANY things in common with you and it's so refreshing to be able to relate so whole heartedly. Kudos to both of you for realising what you have in each other. No pun intended. xo
ReplyDeleteThis is so true. I to have had one of the most challenging years in my 10 years marriage. Its the simple gestures and efforts which make all the difference. I love hearing successful out comes to tough times. Grass is not always greener o the other side! You just need to give your grass tender love and care.
ReplyDeleteJane, Dick....you two are beautiful people. You are an example for many of us marrieds.
ReplyDeleteIndeed, happiness is sometimes over rated in marriage as the goal or end product I think. We forget that for many, our key intimate relationship is our Main Road on our spiritual path. Because it is here in a severe intimacy that we become better people. Or not.
David Schnarch (Passionate Marriage) says in his work that sex is the crucible here for long-time lovers; who sometimes actually "hate" each other. (He only works with couples who agree this is true in their relationship--that they hate each other at times.)
Yes, the beautiful grind. Indeed one could say the bump and the grind of the best and juiciest and sometimes even the darkest stuff of living. Which is often includes the nasty, too. No? Yes!
So keep giving us the good and even the nasty. The bump and the grind.
Dear Dick and Jane
ReplyDeleteReally missing your blog posts.
You guys are my role models.
Thanks
Claire
Thanks Claire, for reaching out and leaving us such a kind message. We're plagued with distraction and higher priorities... but we do write when inspiration hits. I suggest subscribing by email so you don't miss anything. Cheers!
DeleteIt's my first visit to your blog and I must say it's really good. Your experiences and opinions are so real. My girlfriend and I are now following you.
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