Keeping It Solid By Shaking It Up (Dick)

"What if your love life depended on your ability to combine your need for safety and commitment with your need to explore your lust and urges? It’s a salient question from any way a person views relationship, but in this context, we will consider it from a tradition currently under the microscope (some might even say attack): monogamy." - T.M. Bernard

Jane and I are happy monogamists. We married years ago, are raising kids together, work as a team, and look to each other for companionship... and sex. Sometimes mediocre get-the-job-done sex, sometimes crazy, sheet shredding, where-the-fuck-did-that-come-from sex (the kind we write about ;o). We're not extraordinary, we're archetypical suburbanites facing the same struggles as other parents and lovers. Ups, downs, surprises, and monotony.

Keeping a spark lit in the bedroom year after year takes a little work and a little imagination, the rewards of which are boundless and escape the bedroom to saturate our relationship (and family!) with intimate connections and deep feelings of love. As a result we remain happy with each other and our kids are bathed in the warmth and stability of a loving home.

Recently Tinamarie Bernard, Modern Love Muse found Dick-n-Jane.com and identified with our choice of monogamy and our efforts to push boundaries as a technique to maintaining a long term intimate connection. What followed was an email exchange interview and the subsequent publishing of The Sacredness of Dirty Lovemaking on the newly christened site Fearless Press, an extension of Kink Academy.

I encourage you to visit Tinamarie's columns on Fearless Press, Examiner, and The Green Prophet. She's got a solid, and growing, body of work which touches issues close to many of us in ways that spawn contemplative reflection.

Coming soon to Dick-n-Jane.com... a return to the sexy ideas and confessions we're known for. ;o)

Positioned for Success (Dick)

Image via Deeper Valley

Breathless gasps, cries of pleasure, Jane bucking against me to extract the most pleasure from every thrust... this is the sweet spot of sex which precedes orgasm, eclipses awareness of surroundings, and binds us with moments of shared ecstasy rivaled by nothing else.

It's a destination to which we both know the most direct route on paths well traveled. Often in haste to arrive for simple reasons of available time or urgent desire, we take the shortest route possible. We all do this to some degree, don't we? Rush, rush... it's consistent with our busy culture and desire for immediate gratification.

Jane knows what she wants, "cut to the fuck" she says, and so we generally do. Her favorite position changes over time... but I always know what the current choice is. I know the configuration of limbs, the angle, the rhythm that pushes her into rigid, quivering bliss. Despite my knowledge of the direct route, I take detours whenever possible.

Every position is not "the best" position, some are just an exercise in flexibility, but if it includes a dick and a pussy I'll try it. Jane and I experiment, not so much with entanglements gleaned from research but with playful exploration of what our bodies will do. Believe it or not, after 16 years we still stumble across new ways of doing the same thing. All discoveries are not great, but they offer variety. And every once in a while... we find Jane's new favorite.

We carved out some time on Saturday morning to take the slow road. Jane took the lead and started us off with some Reverse Cowgirl. After which we flipped around this way and that and somewhere in the middle we struck a novel combination, not great, but I had my dick in Jane's pussy at the time so it was good enough for me.

The final stretch took a familiar turn and we settled into Jane's current favorite... her flat on her tummy, legs together, me thrusting hard against her ass, driving my dick angrily against her G-Spot. That's a sure thing. We both came hard in perfect unison. It was a good trip.

I just posted some pictures on our HotPics page... not of us, but of some really sexy couples going at it in Jane's position(s) of choice. I hope they make you hot to have some sex yourself... but more importantly, I hope they make Jane want to fuck again, right away. ;o)

Rain (Dick)

Late summer brings the best rainstorms where we live. They roll in at night with a light show followed by thunder that rumbles from a distance before building to crescendo and crashing through open windows.

Sleep escapes. Cool breezes chase us under covers previously forsaken by Summer's heat. We hold tight through waves of glass rattling percussion which explode above the roar of cold rain punishing the roof. I love the rain!

Some years ago, a week of regular afternoon storms brought record rainfall down on us, the kind you see once in 50 years... 5 days in a row. We lived in a moderately hilly area near a park designed to catch and channel floodwater. Every day when the rain let up, and visibility returned, porches filled with wide eyed residents who watched rivers flow down streets and through playgrounds.

At the time, Jane and I lived in a house with another couple and one stormy afternoon the four of us ran out into the torrent. No rain coats, no umbrellas, just total submission to nature's fury. At an elevation of one mile rain is always cold, and this rain took our breath away, but its weight was the most surprising. We ran blocks together this way in awe at the changed landscape and laughing like children.

Back home, we retreated to our bedrooms and stripped off wet clothes. We were soaked like we'd just gotten out of the shower but our skin was cold, covered with goose bumps, and highly sensitive to touch. The adrenalin of adventure still filled our veins, we grabbed each other and fell stark naked into bed where we fucked like crazy until the rain blew over and the storm of our synergistic lust abated.

It was great that day, the sex. Shared adventure does that for a couple... it gets the right juices flowing, mixing up a cocktail of libidinous ambition in the blood. There is no better cure for boredom or lack of desire than shared excitement and/or danger.