Someone Else's Shoes (Dick)

March 12, 2010

Jane loves movies with a strong female lead (and by "strong" I mean tough-as-nails-and-takes-no-shit-from-anyone), she refers to them as "Bad Ass Chick Movies". Topping her favorites list are Angelina Jolie, both in Wanted and Tomb Raider, and Kate Beckinsale in Underworld.

Movies do well to transport us into fantasy, Jane revels in the lure of these women's sexual authority, and her fascination with these characters belies a lust for power.

At one time Jane was a socially reserved introvert. Sexy as hell, sure, but she was more likely to sit quietly on the sidelines than show you who's boss. Not surprisingly, her demure nature followed us into the bedroom where her typically assumed role was that of "bottom".

Jane likes her sex mildly rough at times, enough that a little bruising the next day is considered a good thing. But getting fucked hard is still just that... getting fucked. It is definitively NOT the position of power.

We recently broke a sexual barrier with some role reversal and tried Pegging. For me, it was an amazing physical experience. For Jane, it was a taste of domination that left her with a keen sense of sexual authority. She liked it... and she wants more.

Like any woman excited by how she feels, Jane did the next logical thing... she went shopping for shoes. She did this in secret, of course, and I have no idea what she actually came home with (though I suspect thigh high black boots!).

Her plan is to surprise me with them; to dress herself in some way that she finds sexually empowering (and that I find totally fucking hot!!), strap on her harness, and to show me who's boss.

We have a tentative date set for all this fun and, until she reveals her seductive self to me on that date, I am not allowed to know anything about her new shoes. All I can do is fantasize about my strong female lead. The only thing I know about what she'll be wearing on her feet is that she calls the new footwear her "Fuck You in the Ass" shoes.

7 comments:

FantasiaMar 21, 2010 08:59 AM
Strap on?? did I read strap on? Oh MAMA!!
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AnonymousFeb 10, 2011 04:01 AM
I managed to persuade my wife to get one of these,and she has done it to me once (it was great).
But I think it's either she prefers me to be the more dominant one in bed or it's more along the lines of what this guy writes.
http://realmacktalk.blogspot.com/searc
h/label/fetish

my question how do you get your wife to do this stuff without being needy or how do I just get her to be more slutty in the bedroom.
I'm finding Athols blog good for stuff like this but just wondering on your ideas

Thanks
G
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DickFeb 10, 2011 10:33 AM
Tequila.

I am willing to bet you married someone you were sexually satisfied with. Now it's years later, you are still growing sexually (a good thing) and her sexual growth does not compliment yours. Very common, my friend... it is the fine print of monogamy.

Before setting a goal to draw out your wife's inner vixen you should decide ahead of time that it's ok if she's not into it. She may never be.

The fact that you purchased a strap-on and have used it together is a good sign! At a bare minimum it means she's willing to work with you. But I hear you, it would be better if she was really into it!

Communication is the key, but timing is the door. When she's upbeat and feeling sexy (a little alcohol doesn't hurt), or soaking in a post coital hormone rush, tactfully introduce topics of new sexual interest.

If you can, frame it in terms of what you want rather than what you'd like her to do. For example, if you want her to play a more dominant role don't say that specifically... instead tell her that YOU are interested in being the submissive sometimes.

The difference may seem insignificant, but it casts her part as your benefactor rather than your subordinate. A subtle psychology.

Being a dominant player in the bedroom requires a certain self assuredness, especially if that role is not generally yours. Anything you can do to prop up her self confidence will help you.

Encourage her to dress the part. Take her shopping, or point her to a website, and condone her purchase of anything she thinks will make her feel sexy in the bedroom. Outward appearance, the way in which we believe others see us, plays a big role in how we act around those people.

Positive feedback. When she plays the new role let her know how great it made you feel and how incredibly fucking HOT she is. Criticism (even constructive) or correction spells disaster. If she needs a little course correction, save it until she's more comfortable in the new role.

Give and take. You want her to change in some way that benefits you... consider what changes she might like to see in you and make a sincere effort to please her.

Be patient. Wait for her to express herself sexually and don't be pushy. That doesn't mean that you can't drop subtle hints every now and then though.

Compromise. She may be willing to meet you half way... take it. Love it. Heap the praises on her and hope her sexual growth begins to move in a direction that compliments yours.

Good luck G! And for what it's worth... I still have not seen Jane's new shoes.
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JaneFeb 10, 2011 02:59 PM
@Dick-the shoes are special...they will be revealed when the time is right! *smooch*
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DickFeb 10, 2011 03:12 PM
@Jane - You are the best kind of tease! *grope*
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JaneFeb 10, 2011 05:17 PM
@G-speaking as a woman(that's what I am after all) :o) I can tell you that we are not all out to pussy whip our men. Role reversal can be very difficult, it's hard to step out of one's comfort zone. Sometimes we find that once we do it's very liberating, but sometimes can be uncomfortable. I would say be patient, it may take time for her to become comfortable in the dominant role; and like Dick said, give lots of positive feedback...let her know how hot you find her when she straps on her dick and fucks you. It's important, however that you are able to accept that she may never prefer the dominant role, but is willing to do it for you sometimes.
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AnonymousFeb 11, 2011 03:43 AM
Thanks that makes a sense and it's nice to hear Janes advice.
Ha ha she ceratinly tries to pussy whip me in non sexual ways
G
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